However, what is the meaning of courtship itself? In general, dating can be interpreted the relationship between the boys with girls who are bound in a bond where there is affection, belonging, care of each other, know and understand your partner. But most of the young people now dating is more than that. Broadly speaking, the meaning of courtship can I classify as follows:
1. Courtship FOR FUN
Most of the teens now make sense of dating for fun. In dating they tend to not like commitment. Even in those rare no-dating both girls and boys engage in sex, for them, without it the relationship is less complete. This we can not deny that there has been a shift in the meaning of courtship, they consider going out without a kiss and so is dating a child. So do not be surprised if there are girls who become pregnant outside of marriage.
Therefore, the role of parents is needed. Parents should be able to educate and guide their children so that they do not get caught up in such understanding. Parents should be able to be a friend of his son, so that a child is always confide in their parents, so parents always know the circumstances or the development of their children and can provide input to him.
2. Dating TO PURSUE MATTER
Not a few of the young people make sense of going out just as a means to achieve its goal of a material to meet the daily needs or to conduct studies that require a lot of funds. These sort of people usually opt to choose a candidate partner. When asked about the commitment, they were never serious. Because for them, the court merely as a means to an end. If tujuanya achieved is not uncommon of them to leave her partner immediately.
Most of this attitude is from the girls, but also not a few found the guy doing that. Regarding sex, the type of person like this is very selective. It means they tend to keep a distance with her partner clever and always tried to avoid.
3. AS A STEP TOWARDS A LEVEL courtship MARRIAGE
Not many of us have encountered this type of person, interpret courtship as a stage toward marriage. Those who interpret such tends to be selective in choosing a boyfriend. It means they do not fool around and see the true character and personal nature of his girlfriend. In addition, they tend to accept the couple as they are and recognize weaknesses in their partner. Most of this attitude is a girl. About sex or the other they tend to be protective or distant. But there also are giving up everything for her boyfriend because her boyfriend assess serious in a relationship and hope to continue into marriage.
From the above, I personally say that the legal origin of courtship is permissible (be) then depend on us each, can be permissible, it could even be unlawful Sunnah.
May Allah SWT. provide guidance to us all. Amiiin .
